If you're a mom, you know all about guilt.
Guilt and Motherhood. Just two best friends, making memories and ruining lives together!
If you're a working mom you're likely well familiar with the crushing specialty guilt that can come from leaving your child in the care of someone else while you head out the door to selfishly pursue your own goals and you know, put food on the table and pay the bills. AND WHATNOT.
But the thing is, working mom guilt is its own special brand of hell.
Cool your jets, working moms. It's time we all take a giant chill pill and learn to let that shiz go because the kids of working moms are doing just fine.
In fact, the kids of working moms are doing freaking GREAT!
A Harvard researcher named Kathleen L. McGinn (who is also the Cahners-Rabb Professor of Business Administration at Harvard Business School, NBD...) and her team just published an extensive study following the children of working moms throughout the world and their research overwhelmingly establishes that children of working moms grow up to be higher achieving in their own chosen careers, earn better wages, and become more attentive parents themselves.
Just a few statistics from the study:
- Daughters of working moms are more likely to advance their own careers
- When sons of working moms started their own careers, they spent 50% more time caring for their own families.
- In fact, the impact on the personal lives of sons of working moms indicated that they conduct more equitable home lives and were more likely to contribute to household chores and spent more time caring for family members. “Growing up, what was being modeled for sons was the idea that you share the work at home,”
DID SOMEONE SAY VALIDATION? OR WAS THAT JUST A HARVARD RESEARCHER??
Look, I doubt we'll ever be able to fully eradicate mom guilt entirely, but maybe working moms will be able to rest just a little bit easier knowing that they're raising the kind of humans they can be proud of.
“There’s a lot of parental guilt about having both parents working outside the home,” McGinn says. “But what this research says to us is that not only are you helping your family economically—and helping yourself professionally and emotionally if you have a job you love—but you’re also helping your kids. So I think for both mothers and for fathers, working both inside and outside the home gives your kids a signal that contributions at home and at work are equally valuable, for both men and women. In short, it’s good for your kids.”