A letter to my adult children:
As your mom, I apologize on behalf of everyone guilty of allowing our world to get to this hateful place. I’d love to tell you I’ve had nothing to do with creating the problem, but I’d be lying. I’ve grown up a lot in the last several years and am the first to admit my shame in contributing to the mess. Humility is a dragon slayer. And I’m trying to better myself every day by practicing what matters most: LOVE.
I want you three to grasp the importance of doing the right thing, no matter how the rest of the world behaves around you. Our individual actions affect the collective spirit. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
It matters to me that you’re kind.
It matters to me that you try hard not to judge others – being the best version of yourself is enough work for your lifetime.
It matters to me that you try your best to make a difference in the world, no matter how small.
It matters to me that you don’t walk through life with a label maker – attaching sticky tabs to everyone you meet. (including yourself)
It matters to me that you know you are a beautiful creation and take care of your mind, body and spirit.
It matters to me that you know how to give and receive love.
It matters to me that you appreciate nature because all creation is a gift.
It matters to me that you respect others even when they disrespect you.
It matters to me that you don’t define yourself by who others perceive you to be.
It matters to me that you don’t define others by who you perceive them to be.
It matters to me that you appreciate the value of human life – in every sense of the word.
It matters to me that you participate in the world from a place of love not fear, and that your heart always leads – not your ego.
It matters to me that you live your dream, not someone else’s dream for you.
It matters to me that you smile at others, even on a bad day.
It matters to me that you believe goodness always exists, even when the media tells you otherwise.
It matters to me that you always choose to be the change you want to see.
It matters to me that when you stand up for what you believe, you do so without stepping on another.
It matters to me that you choose to be a good listener – not just a hearer.
It matters to me that you have a mindset to serve, not to be served.
It matters to me that you embrace your uniqueness and the uniqueness of others – normal is an illusion.
It matters to me that you believe in something greater than yourself and don’t take for granted the miracle you are.
It matters to me that you know without a doubt how much I love you – and that NOTHING can ever separate you from my love.
It matters to me that we all do one thing very well – be LOVE. The rest takes care of itself.
Love is what we're made of. Love is why we're here. Never stop being love. The world needs you.
P.S. The above list represents all the actions you guys already live out. Thank you for being three of my greatest teachers. Keep being you.
About Shelby Spear
Shelby is a sappy soul whisperer, sarcasm aficionado, pro-LOVE Jesus adoring mom of 3 Millennials writing stuff & doing life w/ hubs of 25 yrs. She is the co-author of the book, How Are You Feeling, Momma? (You don't need to say, "I'm fine.") You can read her open heart about the revelations, screw-ups, gaffes, and joys of motherhood on her blog shelbyspear.com, around the web at places like Her View From Home, For Every Mom, Today, and in print at Guideposts.