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There Are Only Two Ways To Live Your Life

In January 2016, Hayes was diagnosed with Choroid Plexus Carcinoma, an extremely rare form of cancer that affects 1 in 3 million people. His strong will and fight helped him endure five rounds of intensive chemo and a stem cell transplant.

In January 2016, Hayes was diagnosed with Choroid Plexus Carcinoma, an extremely rare form of cancer that affects 1 in 3 million people. His strong will and fight helped him endure five rounds of intensive chemo and a stem cell transplant. 

He is a triplet born in March 2015. Hayes was the last baby born out of the triplets and immediately was put on a ventilator. He quickly got off the ventilator and was eventually the first baby to come home. His parents have always known that Hayes is determined. He has a tenacious mentality that they haven't seen from their other kids.

His middle name is Kyle, after Chris Kyle from American Sniper. He has defied the odds from the beginning… when they first found out that they were expecting triplets they initially heard only two heartbeats. The ultrasound revealed three babies, but they couldn't hear his heartbeat. The Doctor wasn't very optimistic that he would develop giving him a 50/50 chance, but after only a week they went back and heard Hayes' heartbeat. He was determined to come to their family and be a part of the happy chaos that is the Tate family!

We've been following our friends @Savannat8 and @Tate28 as they and their little Hayes have battled cancer over the last year. They've just received some devastating news. 

From Savanna's Instagram:

@savannat8's latest post from Instagram:

As I look at this picture from our trip to Disneyland, I have been trying to find the courage to finally tell you all the news about my sweet Hayes. On Saturday we brought Hayes home to finish out his life surrounded by his loved ones! We are all so sad! We have all prayed for a miracle! I can't begin to tell you the efforts I have put into getting Hayes better! I was so sure that cancer was in the past and that Hayes was going to live a long, full, boring life. It hasn't been anywhere on my radar! As I have mentioned before, the cancer has returned, and this time, it decided not to give Hayes a chance! It has taken over certain areas of his brain that are integral to survival! I have gone through the depths of despair! But, saying that, I want you to know that all of our prayers for a miracle did not go unanswered! Hayes' entire life has been a miracle! Everything we have done up until his relapse has been a miracle! We were able to go on the most euphoric family vacation to Disneyland just 3 short weeks ago and that in and of itself was a miracle!! The fact that his life will not end at death, that is a miracle! The fact that he ALWAYS smiled and laughed through the pain, that was a miracle! The fact that his heartbeat was found in my stomach at all was a miracle!! Hayes is without a doubt my miracle baby and I feel so lucky that he is mine, forever!! #hayestough#hayesarmy#cancerwarrior#hope#miracleshappen#familiesareforever

Hayes Tough

I've reposted this here so you too can be inspired by this sweet face, by a mother's words in the midst of grief, and mostly so you too can be inspired by the miracles. Miracles happen everywhere around us, even when things don't turn out the way we want. Take this sweet lesson from this little boy and his family. 

“There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.”

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12/4/16 From Hayes Dad Steve, @Tate28:

Hayes has returned to his Heavenly Father. He passed away in our arms surrounded by all of his loved ones. Hayes has taught us so many things on his mission here on earth. One of the more important things Hayes taught us was it was okay to smile in times of fear. Hayes always smiled. He was an angel. Hayes' impact on this world is evident by the amount of love and support we have felt from all over the world. Hayes was tough. He faced his battle with cancer head on and ultimately won that battle. He won that battle because he lived life to the fullest despite having cancer. As Stuart Scott said "you beat cancer by how you live, why you live and the manner in which you live". Hayes did just that. I know that families are forever and I will be Hayes Dad forever. Our family will be okay. We will be okay. Not because it won't pain us, but because Hayes has taught us that it will be okay. He taught us that life's biggest battles cant overtake our love and determination. And this won't come in the way of our love for Hayes and our love for our family. I'm so grateful to be his Dad and I've never been so proud of something in my entire life. My son has changed the world. How amazing is that? He makes me proud to be a Dad. He's my son! How lucky am I? Thank you Hayes. Thank you for choosing our family and impacting the world in the way you did. You are the true definition of a HERO and your legacy will live on forever. #hayestough#familiesareforever#family#dadlife#cancersucks#eternity#love#eternalfamilies

Hayes Tate

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A page has been set up to help cover the funeral expenses. All additional funds will go to help support children and families impacted by childhood cancer. 

In sharing their story, the entire Tate family has taught us so much about strength. They are the toughest people we know! As they always say, ‘Tough times don’t last but tough people do!’

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