I'm Not A Supermom, Just A Mom, And That's Good ENOUGH

Stop worrying about who a good mother is supposed be, and be the mother that you are.
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This article originally appeared on YourTango. By Emily Lingenfelser.

Stop worrying about who a good mother is supposed be, and be the mother that you are.

More and more it seems as if motherhood has become a competition, and everybody thinks that they are winning. It really got me thinking: what makes a good mother?

I don't think it is the material things, the things that people can see from a glance. It isn't cloth diapering, breastfeeding, or car seat safety. Being a good mother does not necessarily mean that you know everything or that your life is perfect.

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Too often we get so caught up in the idea of what it means to successfully raise our children that we forget the important stuff, the things that really matter. 

I will never be a super mom, the mom who does-it-all. My blog will never be a shrine to all my awesome mom abilities. That just isn't who I am.

I am the mom who thinks Easy Mac qualifies as "cooking."

I am the mom whose house never looks like it could be on the cover of a magazine

I am the mom who hates giving advice about being a mom, because seriously, does it look like I know what I am doing? 

I am the mom who loses my temper, my patience, and my car keys.

I am the mom who does the same load of laundry three to four times before remembering to put the clothes in the dryer.

I am the mom who brings store-bought cookies to the birthday party.

I am the mom whose idea of being "presentable" involves simple things like brushing my hair and actually remembering to put deodorant on.

I am the mom who thinks clothes are not necessarily dirty after being worn once.

I am the mom who hands my kid a cell phone to get fifteen more minutes of sleep.

I am the mom who is okay with not being a super mom. Because I am still a good mom.

Being a good mother is not something that you can purchase on Etsy or Target. It cannot be bought in a store or acquired by reading books. More importantly, being a good mother is subjective to each mom and child.

Stop worrying about who a good mother is supposed be, and be the mother that you are.

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