Being Present

As human beings, we get spread out everyday, we spread our attention at work, we worry about paying bills, what's for dinner, what's going on politically, there is so much stimulation everyday in our lives that we literally have to spread ourselves between tomorrow, yesterday, endless to do lists.
Author:
Updated:
Original:

Guest Post by Irinia Gyulumyan:

ira5

As human beings, we get spread out everyday, we spread our attention at work, we worry about paying bills, what's for dinner, what's going on politically, there is so much stimulation everyday in our lives that we literally have to spread ourselves between tomorrow, yesterday, endless to do lists. On the other side, children are always in the present moment, they are not concerned with tomorrow, what happened 2 hours ago, they are simply present every moment and they are observing, learning and interacting with their environment in the present time. Being present also means being in communication with the body, it means that children are in touch with themselves and their bodies.

As parents who are busy, working, teaching, cleaning, cooking, planning the future is hard to stay in the present moment and listen to our bodies and what the body is telling us. We are always busy running from one event to others, from one thought to another, we are constantly in communication with people and giving to ourselves usually is the last thing on the menu. Of course, the consequence is overwhelm, stress and non existent patience with a child.

Imagine, being in the environment where everything flows easily, effortlessly, you are grounded and present. No stress. No overwhelm. No worries. Imagine being in the present moment and communicating with your child in the present. Dealing with an issue or a tantrum in the present moment and move on, deal with another scream from the space of calm and stillness and move on.

Present

Now take a deep breath parents and notice your body. Pay attention to your breath without changing anything. As you bring your attention to your body, it will bring yourself in the present time. Keep breathing, notice the sky, notice your feet, smell the food and BE present to what surprises a day can bring in your doorstep.

****

Irinia Gyulumyan is a clairvoyant and spiritual teacher. When working with parents, individuals, businesses she offers one simple truth: You have a spiritual body and you have a physical body. It is in the recognition of both these parts that we bring balance into our lives and healing can take place. You can read more of her parenting posts, here.

Related

The Transformation of Motherhood

The moments of our daily lives are the best therapist we could have if we pay attention. Motherhood provides an extraordinary opportunity because it triggers so many emotions that lay buried.

Rachel Lucy Boat

Strong Enough To Be Your Mom, Part 2

Was I strong enough to bring her to new experiences? Or because of my lack of physical strength was she literally “bound” to her wheelchair? Was I strong enough to show her the world beyond sidewalks and ramps?

2010-04-04 Easter-2212

Priorities

The problem with all this prioritizing mumbo jumbo is how do we find the right priorities in a mothering world where everyone us needs part of us every minute of the day.

2008-10-16Rocky Point0175

Sacrifice and Balance

The word "sacrifice" sometimes tends to have a negative connotation to me. I'm not really sacrificing my better self to be there for my kids. I want to be there with them, as I'm sure most Mothers do.

2010-10-20DisneyWorld21915

The Myth of the "Perfect Mother"

Years ago my Newsweek magazine sucked me in with it's image of a mother holding a baby and smiling at me from the cover. She was super-imposed with six extra arms, each one doing some sort of motherhood task.