Having a third child has inspired me to doing some reading. Parenting books, specifically. My new baby has affected my current children and of course they both chose to react differently. My four year old has begun throwing tantrums (something she didn't do much of during her toddler years) and my seven year old has become very sensitive to me, and very mean to my four year old. And of course, it's been just long enough since having a newborn that I've forgotten a lot. I quickly accumulated a stack of suggested parenting books, and reached out to our other writers about which parenting books they recommend and why.
Here's who made the list of our 10 Favorite Parenting Books:
I love this parenting book! It was written by a fellow parent and blogger and emphasizes getting away from yelling and nagging:
Eanes shares her hard-won wisdom for overcoming limiting thought patterns and recognizing emotional triggers, as well as advice for connecting with kids at each stage, from infancy to adolescence. This heartfelt, insightful advice comes not from an "expert," but from a learning, evolving parent. Filled with practical, solution-oriented advice, this is an empowering guide for any parent who longs to end the yelling, power struggles, and downward spiral of acting out, punishment, resentment, and shame--and instead foster an emotional connection that helps kids learn self-discipline, feel confident, and create lasting, loving bonds.
The Danish have been declared the happiest people in the world and this book looks specifically at what they're doing to raise children to have them become the happiest people. I absolutely love reading about different countries and how they parent and why, so this book is at the top of my favorites list! I especially love that much of their happiness comes from re-framing and having an optimistic outlook in life. This key topics of this parenting book can be broken down into a simple acronym:
Play is essential for development and well-being.
Authenticity fosters trust and an "inner compass."
Reframing helps kids cope with setbacks and look on the bright side.
Empathy allows us to act with kindness toward others.
No ultimatums means no power struggles, lines in the sand, or resentment.
Togetherness is a way to celebrate family time, on special occasions and every day. The Danes call this hygge--and it's a fun, cozy way to foster closeness. Preparing meals together, playing favorite games, and sharing other family traditions are all hygge. (Cell phones, bickering, and complaining are not!)
This parenting book shows you how to raise self-confident, motivated children who are ready for the real world. It teaches how to parent effectively while teaching your children responsibility and growing their character. It is quickly becoming a staple-I see it on many of my friends shelves!
I love lists and this is a 12 strategy list for helping nurture and develop your children's mind. By studying how children's brains develop, it offers insight into the WHY of everything with children:
The authors explain—and make accessible—the new science of how a child’s brain is wired and how it matures. The “upstairs brain,” which makes decisions and balances emotions, is under construction until the mid-twenties. And especially in young children, the right brain and its emotions tend to rule over the logic of the left brain. No wonder kids throw tantrums, fight, or sulk in silence. By applying these discoveries to everyday parenting, you can turn any outburst, argument, or fear into a chance to integrate your child’s brain and foster vital growth.
While this book doesn't offer parenting advice, it does offer plenty of laughs. Even with this being my third child I found it quite amusing. The book is like having a funny best friend telling you all about what to expect in the first year of parenthood. It’s essential reading for expecting or new parents and makes a unique baby shower or new mommy gift.
This is so my life right now:
This book is so interesting because it covers unique parenting topics and presents a new way of looking at how we parent, using studies that show how some of our new parenting techniques are backfiring. It covers things like:
- Why the most brutal person in a child's life is often a sibling, and how a single aspect of their preschool-aged play can determine their relationship as adults.
- When is it too soon - or too late - to teach a child about race? Children in diverse schools are less likely to have a cross-racial friendship, not more - so is school diversity backfiring?
- Millions of families are fighting to get their kids into private schools and advanced programs as early as possible. But schools are missing the best kids, 73% of the time - the new neuroscience explains why.
- Why are kids - even those from the best of homes - still aggressive and cruel? The answer is found in a rethinking of parental conflict, discipline, television's unexpected influence, and social dominance.
How do other countries create “smarter” kids? What is it like to be a child in the world’s new education superpowers? The Smartest Kids in the World “gets well beneath the glossy surfaces of these foreign cultures and manages to make our own culture look newly strange....The question is whether the startling perspective provided by this masterly book can also generate the will to make changes” (The New York Times Book Review).
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Author Sheila McCraith shares daily thoughts, tips, and motivational personal stories to help you toss out the screams and welcome in the peace. It's a 30 day guide that includes alternatives to yelling, stories, examples and easy to follow steps! Whether you have one child or twenty (or one you still yell at who is twenty), need to strengthen your relationships and even need to laugh a little more--this book is here to help!
Sleep is soooooooo essential! This valuable sourcebook contains the latest research on:
• the best course of action for sleep problems: prevention and treatment
• common mistakes parents make trying to get their children to sleep
• different sleep needs for different temperaments
• stopping the crybaby syndrome, nightmares, bedwetting, and more
• ways to get your baby to fall asleep according to her internal clock—naturally
• handling nap-resistant kids and when to start sleep-training
• why both night sleep and day sleep are important
• obstacles for working moms and children with sleep issues
• the father’s role in comforting children
• how early sleep troubles can lead to later problems
• the benefits and drawbacks of allowing kids to sleep in the family bed
I had to add this book to the list because thousands of books have examined the effects of parents on their children. But almost none have thought to ask: What are the effects of children on their parents? This book was such an eye-opening read for me because it references study after study about us as parents instead of just looking at children. The book analyzes the many ways children reshape their parents' lives, whether it's their marriages, their jobs, their habits, their hobbies, their friendships, or their internal senses of self.
Meticulously researched yet imbued with emotional intelligence, All Joy and No Fun makes us reconsider some of our culture's most basic beliefs about parenthood, all while illuminating the profound ways children deepen and add purpose to our lives. By focusing on parenthood, rather than parenting, the book is original and essential reading for mothers and fathers of today—and tomorrow.
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