Ana is a single mama to an 8-yr-old son, Javier, who loves to wear costumes 365 days per year. When not exploring her beloved Sunshine State with her family, she's planning date nights with her single dad beau, Mark. The former content director for, Ana is now the VP of Content for Today's Mama. She has interviewed a wide range of mamas, from First Lady Michelle Obama to the Kardashians and everything in between.

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Not All Breadwinner Moms Are Happy About It

The first time I became the breadwinner in my family was when I moved from New York City to the Deep South for a job, and my husband was unable to find work making the same amount of money he made in the city. At the time we knew of only one other breadwinner mom, so it took a lot of getting used to, not just for ourselves but for the people around us, too.

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Boy, have times changed in the short nine years since! A whopping 40 percent of households with kids now count mom as primary breadwinner, according to a Pew report released late last year. Now the Working Mother Institute just released a new survey of 2,000 moms and dads that deepens the conversation. The findings reveal some interesting facts about how breadwinner moms really feel about their partners, their kids, and the unavoidable work/life balance. A few highlights:

The majority of moms surveyed say they became the household breadwinners by chance, not choice, so it’s not surprising some don’t feel satisfied with the decision. The report finds only 60 percent of moms are satisfied with how at-home tasks are divided compared to a much higher  76 percent of dads. However, both men and women report a relatively high satisfaction level with their relationship in general (72 percent of moms vs. 80 percent of dads).

Moms and dads agree society remains more comfortable with men as breadwinners, even post-recession. I cannot agree more! We have come so far, yet we have so far to go! We desperately need more workplace flexibility, and better maternity and paternity leave policies, just to start.

Women are less satisfied with their partner’s contribution to family finances. Seventy-two percent of male breadwinners are satisfied compared to just 58 percent of the female breadwinners. Almost a quarter of the breadwinning moms believe their partners should make a bigger financial contribution and 21 percent would prefer their partner be the primary earner, while only 2 percent of dads felt the same way.

For an in-depth look at the survey, click HERE. Who’s the primary earner in your family, and how do you feel about it? Please leave a comment below!

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  1. Becca 02/27/2014 at 9:16 am

    I’m the main breadwinner – and to make myself feel better I say that I’m happy with the choice, but it’s of necessity. I like what I do, but deep down, I definitely have resentment. I don’t like to admit it. And I think working moms often use the go to “He’s a better stay at home parent than me” “I wouldn’t be good staying home” and belittle our parenting skills to feel better about our day to day situation. I think more moms feel it than would like to admit. It comes with too much guilt all the way around.

  2. Kelly 02/25/2014 at 7:05 pm

    I am the only breadwinner. There is no way my husband could earn as much so we made a family decision for him to be home. With all of our kids activities, I doubt think we could do it if he had to work. It does add a layer of stress knowing that all 5 of us a relying on me but it works for our family.