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Developmental Milestones

My son just turned one, and he’s not walking.  Not only is he not walking, but he’s not even really crawling.  He rolls around the room and he pushes himself backwards, but that’s it.

My mother-in-law says that my husband never crawled.  Apparently one day he just got up and started walking.  Our pediatrician says that crawling is not actually a developmental milestone.

But it’s eating at me.

I’m worried.  And I can see how frustrated he is.

I know that every child is different.  My daughter was running around all over the place by 11 months.  When I’d look at her age in the What to Expect During the First Year Book, she was about two months ahead of schedule on everything.  And when I read the same sections for him, I feel anxiety because I know he’s not where he “should be.”

He’s on target for height and weight, eats well,  waves and talks to us, and dances on demand.  But I can see how badly he wants to do this, and how irritated he is that it’s not happening. He’s in position every morning when I go in to get him out of his crib, and he practices whenever he’s on the floor during the day.  But it doesn’t happen, and he cries.  He still is dealing with some yet to be diagnosed health problems, and I can’t help but wonder if we don’t really know what’s wrong with him, how do we know that something else isn’t going on?  We don’t.  And it can be hard to not think like that.

We go to birthday parties and play dates where we see all the other babies his age pulling themselves up and starting to toddle around.  A few weeks ago, someone asked me if he was seven months old, which seemed laughable considering his size, but in actuality made me want to cry.

Hopefully in a few weeks, I’ll be writing a post about child proofing and how I need to do more of it with my little guy who’s into everything  Every time my three year old sees him up on his knees, she asks him if it’s crawl day.  But while we keep waiting, we’re rooting for him, even if it’s taking a little bit longer.

Crawl day?


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  1. Erin Oltmanns 08/19/2012 at 7:20 pm

    My girl didn’t walk until 14 months. My son didn’t walk until 15. With my son it seemed like it took FOREVER for him to crawl. Now we don’t have dining room chairs because he climbs up on the table. 🙂 Hang in there.

  2. Katherine Gordy Levine 08/17/2012 at 7:57 am

    I’d worry but hold on a while longer, unless you can’t sleep nights. Then for your sake I asked to have him seen by a developmental specialist.

    Crawling is indeed extremely variable. So much depends on the muscles, how they strengthen as well body type. One of my grandsons has thunder thighs and a big pot belly, so turning over, crawling, and walking have been harder for him than it was for his skinny-minny brother. On the other hand, he is following the text book for talking while his brother didn’t, nor did other family kids who had a certain shape mouth.

    The fact that he is frustrated says he is a bright little boy and determined. Good strengths. But as I say, if you can’t sleep, see a specialist. Nothing to lose but a bit of money and possibly peace to gain.

    Of course, if nothing is wrong, you will be called an over anxious mother. There are worse things in the world.

    Good luck and stay strong.