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No Valentines Day

We don’t really celebrate Valentine’s Day anymore. I was tempted to start and end this post with the phrase “because I’m a grown-up, now,” but didn’t.

And then I wanted to say, “because we’re broke,” but that’s boring/a downer/true.

To tell you the truth, “Eh,” is what I mostly say to Valentine’s Day.

It’s not that I hate Valentine’s Day, I don’t, it’s that I don’t care that much anymore. I say no Valentines Day. I’m approaching fifteen years of marriage, what’s my husband going to get me, a surprise? I don’t think so. I’d rather he surprise me with a new phone, or an evening alone in my own (clean) home because he took the kids away. None of that will happen because it’s on a school night and we have responsibilities. A dozen long stem roses with babies breath? You take those roses straight back to 1987 where they belong.

I’d like to go out to dinner (see: broke) but there’s no way I’d ever want to go to dinner on actual Valentine’s Day–let’s leave that to the noobs in fresh relationships. Want to be romantic? Cook mac & cheese from a box and let me take the night off from meal prep.

I cannot remember the last time we went out to dinner on Valentine’s Day, maybe it was the 90s? I do remember most restaurants having 2 hour waits, and no one wants to eat at PF Chang’s that badly.

These days it’s more about helping the kids with fun Valentine activities. Cutting up Valentine cards, picking out the candy, and frosting sugar cookies (I always think I’m going to make sugar cookies, but I never do. I blame that three year streak a while back when I did make them–that woman lived in a condo and had only one child.) You have to double check the list of class names, cross reference with which person gets what type of candy, and make sure little BrinnLeighy’s name isn’t misspelled on the envelope.

And, you know, this new kind of No Valentine’s Day is more practical, less stressful, and features 98% less angst. There’s so much pressure on people to find a Valentine, romance their Valentine,or lament a Valentine. None of those are for me. How about we just cut up some printed Valentines and sneak the conversation hearts when the kids aren’t looking? Don’t bother getting chocolates at a local store, they’re nasty anyway. What about a rain check on dinner? How about you keep those over-priced roses and surprise me with a bouquet in a couple months when the prices aren’t stupid?

Why don’t you simply be my Valentine?

 Do you make a point of celebrating Valentine’s Day?


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  2. vanessa 02/13/2013 at 7:00 pm

    We use it an excuse to make something nicer for dinner. Thats it. I hate their our anniversary is the day after VDay. Wish we hadn’t done it that way.

  3. Rachelle 02/13/2013 at 3:57 pm

    I kind of see it as an excuse to make treats for everyone in the family. I prefer to make an awesome seafood puttanesca for the hubby that we eat in the dining room Alone, while the kids have regular spaghetti in the kitchen. I definitely don’t need flowers or big gifts and I don’t want to go out. Although, a little chocolate never goes awry

  4. Amelia 01/14/2013 at 11:14 am

    Ha! I just stumbled on this. and I. LOVE. it! I was trying to convince my husband of the overratedness/it’s an invented holiday. I love that when you said get me some flowers when they are not expected. Hello? You are awesome and I love your crankiness.

  5. Ladies Holiday 02/13/2012 at 6:58 pm

    I see it as something mostly for the kids…surprise me with a romantic night in or out when I’m not expecting it. Wink;

  6. vanessa 02/13/2012 at 6:45 pm

    The girls and I go to Sees and get chocolates every year for ourselves. Then Tyler makes an extra yummy dinner. That is all we do.

  7. Kalli 02/13/2012 at 2:06 pm

    It’s Brinleix

    thanks for checking

  8. Erica Fehrman 02/13/2012 at 10:31 am

    Ugh, baby’s breath is awful! My husband usually makes pink heart pancakes for breakfast, and we all exchange cards and maybe a small, fun gift. Tomorrow we happen to be volunteering at the hospital, so I’ll make heart pizza for the kids and sitter and the hubs and I will eat Indian takeout when we get home. That’s a great night for me! 🙂

  9. Erin Oltmanns 02/13/2012 at 9:57 am

    We focus our “romantic holiday” energy on our Wedding Anniversary. We’re all still sick around here, so this year for V-day, I’d like my Emergen-C straight up with a side of Chicken Soup.

  10. Michelle Powell 02/13/2012 at 8:48 am

    We don’t celebrate much either. We make homemade heart shaped pizza and breadsticks with the kids, throw on some good old fashioned love songs, and call it a night. We DID go and see The Vow on Friday night though! LOVED IT!