Erin is a mom of two and has been with Today’s Mama for ten years. She is charged with finding and sharing all of the wonderful things the web has to offer. She is particularly fond of food, photography, printables, and funny things. She writes about losing weight in her Healthy Living for Mom series, and is chronicling her attempt to master her DSLR camera with her series, Big Girl Camera.

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Healthy Living for Mom: Have a plan!

I had another great week…right up until the weekend when I took an epic nosedive off the eat well wagon.

We hosted a BBQ at our house and I knew what was on the menu—Hamburgers, Hotdogs, chips, assorted sides/salads, and cookies and ice cream for dessert. The cooler on the deck was full of assorted soda and my very favorite beer. My plan was to enjoy my delicious burger with a few salads and water. I was going to skip the cookies and ice cream. Not because I’m a rock, but because I was going to indulge in even better ice cream the following night while I watched True Blood. (It was going to be my little weekly treat.)

So, I had this plan. I was cozy with it. I was not pining for chips or for cookies, or even for my very favorite beer.

My plan got hijacked by BBQ late-comers and no-shows.

We delayed dinner.


Somewhere around the 90 minute mark, I fell face first into the chips.

Hey! You know what goes well with salty chips? A cold beer, that’s what. *sigh*

When dinner was ready, I loaded up my plate, and CHOWED DOWN. But I was still hungry. Like, eat another plate-full, hungry. But instead of making another plate, I visited the cookie basket. Over. And over. And over.


The next morning, I woke up and cut myself some slack. One evening isn’t going to kill me, especially after a great week of eating well and working out.

Fast forward to Sunday evening.  I’m working late, everyone is in bed and I am consumed with the knowledge that there are 4 leftover cookies sitting on the kitchen counter. I really have WAY too many things to do to be thinking about cookies at 10:00 P.M., but here is a rough approximation of the thoughts that were skipping through my head.

I want a cookie. I want a cookie. I want a cookie. I want a cookie. I want a cookie.

Just one cookie.

*I go upstairs to get one cookie*

I want another cookie. I want another cookie. I want another cookie. I want another cookie.

Just one more won’t kill me. 

*I go upstairs for one more cookie*

I want the rest of those cookies. 

I should eat all of the cookies tonight, so they don’t tempt me tomorrow. 

*I go upstairs and wolf down the remaining two cookies*



I thought a lot about what I would have done differently in this situation. I had a lot of resolve until I became ravenous. Then, after I binged at the BBQ, it felt a little like, “What the hell, may as well eat those cookies. I already blew it.”

Next time, I’ll make sure to have some healthy appetizers hanging around (I guess there IS a reason for those veggie trays, after all) and since the BBQ was on my turf, I could have easily tossed a few chicken breasts on the grill.

Next time I’ll send ALL of the leftover cookies home with my guests.


  • Starting Weight: 195.5 pounds
  • Week Two Weight: 192 pounds (+.5 pounds this week)
  • Goal Weight: 165 lbs


What’s your plan for parties and get-togethers? Indulge and make up for it later? Pick and choose the healthiest available? Even if it means skipping something fabulous?


Read the previous Healthy Living for Mom posts…

Healthy Living for Mom: One Change at a Time

Healthy Living for Mom: Let’s Do This

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  3. Becky 09/19/2011 at 9:23 pm

    I so use the logic of, “if I eat it all now then I won’t be tempted later.” Seems great at the time when I NEED a treat. You are doing so well. I’m impressed. I need to get myself in gear!

  4. Keersten 09/19/2011 at 2:01 pm

    Oh man! I have SO been there. Especially the “I might as well eat it now so it doesn’t tempt me later” thing. Why does that make so much sense in the moment???

    I have been trying to go with the steady and sensible approach and have been making progress. I like to track what I eat and my workouts on It is easy to use, free and acts like my own little food cop. 😀

  5. Amy Allen Johnson 09/14/2011 at 11:27 am

    forgive yourself. enjoy it while you’re in the moment. Have a buddy help in the monitoring. No one wants to be a food cop, but I always try to find an ally before the heat of a party. Cookie discussion with self? you might as well have recorded my brain waves this weekend. 🙁

    • Erin Oltmanns 09/14/2011 at 9:24 pm

      Okay, now I feel better knowing someone else has the crazy cookie internal dialogue!

  6. Carina 09/14/2011 at 9:42 am

    I know it’s a cliche, but I have the same issue: fail to plan, plan to fail. If I don’t set myself up with healthy and regularly-timed options, things don’t end well.

    • Erin Oltmanns 09/14/2011 at 9:23 pm

      No kidding. AND in addition to eating garbage, I get a serious case of the crankies when I’m hungry.